Talli's blog

Obligatory sex conflicts with human sexual rights

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 10/17/2019 - 10:13

The World Association of Sexual Health Congress met recently in Mexico City. Though I was unable to attend due to the Jewish Holidays, I was pleased to receive the following declaration, which discusses pleasure as a basic fundamental right. The statement is as follows:


Intimate Judaism podcast season finale: Marital conflicts about religion

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 05/23/2019 - 16:36

What happens when couples disagree over religious observance? When one spouse decides that he or she no longer wants to be observant? Is there a way to reach an understanding? Join Talli and Scott as we discuss these issues on the season finale of Intimate Judaism! To listen to the season finale episode of Intimate Judaism click here


Intimacy after abuse

Submitted by Talli on Fri, 03/22/2019 - 17:23

Humans  long for intimacy and are wired to connect. Most individuals desire to experience a meaningful partnership that includes feeling secure, understood and loved. 


"Just relax." Meeting with trauma in the physical therapy setting

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 02/21/2019 - 15:27

In his seminal book “The Body Keeps the Score,” trauma expert Dr. Bessel van der Kolk states “the ability to feel relaxed in one’s body requires the emotional experience of safety.”  


How often “should" Orthodox couples have sex?

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 12/20/2018 - 21:27

I  recently received the following question from a therapist:


Marriage and the traveling spouse

Submitted by Talli on Tue, 12/11/2018 - 14:23

Tamar and Avi are an American couple in their late thirties who made aliya to Israel two years ago with their four children.  They presented to couple therapy in distress. They reported that they argued frequently about their children, their in-laws, household tasks and money. Tamar said she felt that Avi took her for granted and had no idea what her life was like.  Avi complained, “We hardly ever have sex.”


Tightly Wound: A review and social commentary

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 09/09/2018 - 15:53

Tightly Wound is a film by Shelby Hadden and Sebastian Bisbal that tells Shelby's story of dealing with vaginismus and her path to finding treatment.


The death of desire begins in childhood

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 03/08/2018 - 20:43

Above the drawing of four modestly attired girls in a supermarket is the caption “Modesty in the public sphere:  What immodest act is each girl in the picture engaged in?’


The M word, an addendum to raising sexually healthy Orthodox sons

Submitted by Talli on Wed, 01/24/2018 - 15:54

First published in Times of Israel


Sexual abuse with no abuser: guest blog

Submitted by Talli on Tue, 12/05/2017 - 16:04

This guest blog was written by Elisheva Liss, LMFT